This is kind of long
I live in a sea side town, this means it's very closed off from the rest of the country and new ideas and everything to be honest, people are poor and if you want to stereotype (which again to be honest my town is a huge stereotype) there are many 'chavs', I find that I feel very different to most people I meet and know, I always thought I was just weird for a long time growing up, but now I'm more grown up and a Mum (this gives a huge amount of personal insight dont you think) I know it's this town. I find that I am determined to not just go along with the crowd (and that crowd is huge here) and do the 'normal' things that everyone else does even if it means being frowned at or given that look that says 'you are weird'. Sadly in this town cloth nappies and even more sadly breastfeeding are not the norm especially for someone my age (it sounds terrible even writing it but thats whats its like here), this also includes the things i like doing like gardening, reading, wearing clothes that arent 'chav', being slightly different or probably normal to the rest of the country lol (due to the closed of nature of the town) etc etc the list is endless and rather depressing. Anyway
no one uses cloth round here (ok so there will be a few somewhere), and very few people breastfeed, in fact people dont really do anything im interested in, its a strictly 'pampers, disposable wipes, bottle' area round here (sorry to anyone who does these things but im using it as an example) and people just dont understand reusables, a lady today was trying not to look too horrified when i began to discuss (suggest lol) reusable wipes, people just wont have it! I think the worst thing about it all is that everyone just goes along with everything, no one questions anything, I've found a huge amount of things that I'm not happy with as a person and a Mum, the problem is so many people just dont know or understand this stuff and if they do they dont bother to voice their concerns, i probably research too much but some being; the issue of forward facing car seats http://www.rearfacing.co.uk/
, the MMR after reading some research showing the goverments lack of evidence and testing of the jabs even though they say its ok, disposable nappies and even more so, wipes with their horrible chemicals, the companies involved in products for children and what they dont tell parents, more importantly why the goverment let companies keep things quiet and by doing so many parents and people in general go along with the norm (again the problem with my town, they even look at me like im mad and say 'well everyone does it and they sell it so it must be ok') without ever knowing different or that things arent necessarily healthy or safe, but those things are a different topic entirely, if I'm not happy with things I try and do things about it instead of just moan, like emailing companies and the MP to voice my concerns but in my town someone of my age is looked at like we're crazy, like only grumpy old ladies are allowed to complain, it drives me round the bend. I chat normally to people, I dont try and push these ideas on people, its nothing like that, its purely when someone sees that you do something different they make you feel crazy!
The worst thing is that the information is there, we have surestart who give so much info but people turn their noses up because its not 'normal', i feel honestly embarrassed to get out me wipes and nappies at our local group but i try to sort of lead the way by not backing down and pulling out disposables and pampers wipes just to save face, but the culture of the whole country is just so against, it seems, anything natural and healthy, i know its not peoples fault but its infuriating that we are basically sold and almost forced to do the norm by the companies that sell these products, because thats the problem isnt it really.
i think anyone who hasnt got the confidence to be different will give up round here but sadly its the things that do their babys good that they will lose out on, even though they mean well. I'm not against anyone who doesnt like cloth nappies or anything like that, its purely the huge weight of 'being normal' that gets me down.
I bet I'm not the first to come across this problem with the nappies and wipes, am I right?
thats my little vent over anyway
i shall move to sweden i think
Thanks for reading