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Your area and 'acceptance'

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twinkletot
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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby twinkletot » Sun Mar 07, 2010 2:02 pm

It all depends who you talk to around here. I had a pharmacist ask me what nappies I use and when I told her she was completely :shock: :roll: .
My friends however are very accepting and always comment on the nappies and wool saying how nice they are. My family (and dp's) are happier that I use cloth than sposies and when I started up my dad bought some nappies :D
At my toddler group there are 4 other parents who use cloth so it's not seen as the 'odd' thing to do.

If strangers don't like it then tough, it's nothing to do with them. Most have been really interested though. It seems I am lucky with the response where I live!

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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby smilinglou » Mon Mar 08, 2010 4:06 pm

i think, and i really dont mean this in a horrible or judging way, but if a younger person used cloth/breastfeeds etc then people may think 'oh it must be a new thing' and younger mums think well if shes doing it then it must be 'in' :roll: thats what it seems like round here, like a sort of role model thing, im not sure but it defently is to do with what is popular and people not wanting to look silly, especially round here when everyone does the same, iv seen some people look interested like they think its ok but then they go back into the big wide world of 'follow the crowd' and forget. i think if people understood that we choose to do these things because its healthier and that you personally prefer it and even that it can be cheaper maybe ppl will get it, although those that are less accepting of other peoples choices wont be, but i bet you wont see them try it because its too commercialised these days, i feel frustrated that everyone does the same thing even when its actually quite unhealthy but thats because of the lack of informed choice, if people knew the facts then they might change their mind, or maybe not, its probably still a crowd following thing more than even personal preference, i think confidence is a huge factor in anything, if you act like you care and are shy about it then people will assume you havent got a clue but with confidence and not caring (which is what im trying to do) either people may accept your ways and choices and even convert or they will just look at you lovingly as the strange hippy lady from mars, as opposed to unlovingly ha ha
also i wonder if people can see that these things are better for their babys so because they didnt or dont do it maybe due to not understanding how to/fear/the thought of it being time consuming etc etc then maybe they feel resentful towards those that do, i dont know but i get that feeling sometimes from people. It's the isolation it brings when people actually almost apologize for not trying the healthier options, i would never force any of this stuff on them, i sometimes explain the options if they say something like "dont you have to use pins and fold bits of fabric i wouldnt know where to start" or "how do you feed when you're out of the house, i felt too embarassed", and they actually look sad because they probably didnt have the confidence to try these things, thats the worst, they think i might judge them badly because they chose not to, which i would never do, everyone has to make their own informed choices but a lot dont, they go with the crowd.
id really like to see more people think that these things are worth a try at least and maybe even stick a finger up at these companies that try and tell them that those wipes are as pure as water and those nappies are soft and kind to the skin grrr there's the real problem, does anyone else ever realise that just because they wrote dermatologically tested doesnt mean those test results said the product was safe, they did the tests though, they let us know they did them :roll:

i feel a bit better about being the only one now, i dont feel so 'weird', i just do something a bit different, its a good feeling now rather than before, and these things take time, like years ago it was weird for men to stay at home with their kids and women to work and people are understanding children and babys more, i suppose more understanding and recognising healthier ways takes time like those things did

this site is perfect, we get to shop as well as get support lol :wine:

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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby peachy.moo » Mon Mar 08, 2010 8:50 pm

I'm another in Ireland & am viewed as very odd......

First time round, no one else used cloth that i knew- this time i have gotten 2 friends into cloth....

I know 2 other people that sling wear- or did- for the first month or so.....

Everyone i know gave up feeding by 6-8mths & i was viewed as 'amazing' for feeding til Kai self weaned..... (Elsie was another matter altogether & self weaned at 10mths having never enjoyed it anyway.........)

That said, i don't want them to go to mainstream school, i'm veggie married to a beef farmer (trying to sell & move), non vaccinating & don't feed sweets, chocolate or fizzy drinks- so in Ireland i stick out fairly badly (well that & the English accent!! :hohoho: )

Dh supports me, but people round here are very narrow minded & very strong viewed....

Oh i also don't work so i get treated as an outsider by some of my closest friends as our lo's get older..... :(

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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby monsterm » Mon Mar 08, 2010 9:06 pm

peachy.moo wrote: & don't feed sweets, chocolate or fizzy drinks- so in Ireland i stick out fairly badly (well that & the English accent!! :hohoho: )


What????? No red lemonade & taytos????? Cruel mammy :wink:

peachy.moo wrote: people round here are very narrow minded & very strong viewed....


Yup that's Ireland for you.

LOL at you being married to a beef farmer :hohoho: :hohoho:

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Mareth
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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby Mareth » Mon Mar 08, 2010 9:12 pm

By the Irish I'm viewed as pretty odd for the cloth nappies (and slings up until recently), however our village is full of African families and the ladies often look and smile as they'd do a lot of babywearing etc themselves :wine: .

PHN's think I'm insane, DH's mam thinks I'm mental. His granny on the other hand thinks the cloth nappies are great :mrgreen:

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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby peachy.moo » Mon Mar 08, 2010 9:16 pm

I know, it's a classic that- life long veggie with 2 veggie kids & a 4th generation farmer as a husband!! :hohoho:

I know, i'm an awful mammy- no chips n nuggets at soft play, no sweets while shopping & no powerade n tayto at snack time!! :giggle:

Sil was feeding all that stuff to my nephews from 8mths if not younger my other nephew was weaned by 10wks (full bowl of rice at his christening) & drinking nothing but Miwadi!!!! :shock: :x

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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby peachy.moo » Mon Mar 08, 2010 9:17 pm

Geordie_Girl wrote: His granny on the other hand thinks the cloth nappies are great :mrgreen:


That's so sweet!! Nice to have someone in the family share in it!! :D

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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby toothlesswonder » Mon Mar 08, 2010 9:50 pm

Ohhhh Tayto and red lemonade!!!

And Kimberley biscuits..... mmmmm

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Mareth
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Re: Your area and 'acceptance'

Postby Mareth » Tue Mar 09, 2010 9:12 am

peachy.moo wrote:
Geordie_Girl wrote: His granny on the other hand thinks the cloth nappies are great :mrgreen:


That's so sweet!! Nice to have someone in the family share in it!! :D


She's approaching 80 if not over it already, an old farmer lady who worked the fields her whole life and HATES waste.

We had a good chat about the nappies as I don't think she'd seen any cloth for about 30 years, since DH's younger brothers would have been in nappies, and she thought the fancy, fitted, velcro, waterproof things I had were fab. :giggle:

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