My son is 2y4m and still breastfeeding. I started "don't offer don't refuse" about 9 months ago and he stopped asking for it during waking hours ages ago, but still wants it in order to go to sleep - so naptime, bedtime and every time he wakes during the night, which is a lot. I have been through wobbles about it before and every time decided I will keep going as long as he wants to but he really is showing no signs whatsoever of dropping his night nursing sessions, and every time I suggest we think about stopping he becomes very upset. He tells me he loves it and I feel mean even considering taking it away from him.
But I am *exhausted* and I am such an AWFUL person when I am tired. I have just been screeching at the kids all morning today and I couldn't wait to get him down for his nap so I only have one child to contend with. DH is away all weekend and then its half term next week so I have two kids to myself for 9 days and I'm dreading it. I know I'd be in a better place to manage if I was just getting some sleep.
when he nurses at night he wriggles about, kicks me, pulls on my hair constantly and it is impossible for me to go back to sleep until he has. He will not sleep in our bed, insists on me sleeping in his, which is a single so very uncomfortable, so I try not to spend the whole night there. So each time he wakes I am up out of my bed for at least half an hour, often longer. My only means of coping is to go to bed at, like, 8pm, but I hate doing that as I get so little me-time as it is, I just want a couple of hours in the evening to do my own thing.
I'm sorry, I am ranting. I really want to stop nursing but I don't knopw how to go about it without upsetting him and feeling selfish! I know it is a short time in the scheme of things, but I also can't help thinking that left to his own devices he would continue for at least another year and I don't know if I can do it. Is there a gentle way to do this? He is extremely head-strong and a big screamer, and he will scream for hours if I don't nurse him to sleep (we have tried this, though not recently). DH will help to a point but gets very angry when what he tries doesn't work, so I always end up giving in as I can't handle having my husbands strops to deal with on top of my son's!
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