Another midwife grumble!

Firstly, my midwife is great, but she gets on my nerves! She wants me to do the sugar test, but I have to be there at 8 in the morning! I have told her that 8 in the morning isn't possible for me as I have 2 children to get ready for school. Everyone i know either works or has their own children to get ready for school. She is still insisting i go! She has rung them and convinced them to give me a later time, 9.30 much better time! She said I have to get bloods done at the same time
And she is making me see a consultant because of my BMI and my second child having been born with cleft lip/palate
I wanted a homebirth last time and they refused me! I think I just don't want to go because I don't want them to refuse me my wishes again! Sorry I know I sound abit childish but I would love a homebirth, and all my labours have been nice and quick, hassle free. This is my last baby and I don't want to reget not doing it at home!

Have injections yesterday and my arms are killing me

You don't have to do anything ! Why we're you refused a home birth xx

My BMI was too high, and I had a baby that was 'incompatible with life', the baby had no brain and half the skull had formed. I lost a stone and a half before this pregnancy, so my BMI is only 1 number too high!
@littlesez

So sorry amba

The home birth is your choice hun x

I still have 3 almost 4 lovely boys tho
All scans show baby is developing fine, I may just have to really push for it. I also want a pool birth too as I've heard good things about them

For me the pool was more important than where I was

I think I'd try and do the gtt and just tell them when you can do it. Maybe do can take a little time off? but see the consultant and push for a home/ pool birth. Tell them you are only just over the bmi threshold and see what they say. If your bp and glucose tolerance is ok they might be supportive.as Sara said at the end of the day it's your choice.

I hope you're feeling happier soon.

Where are you? I don't think that they can refuse you a home birth (I was told that they couldn't, although they can advise and be nasty whilst going about it)
Ask to see the birth choices consultant.
I'm high risk, and had been signed off for MLU delivery (and home birth was discussed and not ruled out) assuming I was well and went to term. Ok things have changed since then, but this was still an option. My risks were caused by more issues than BMI!
Good luck, hope you get someone to listen xx

hi, a bit of hopefully useful practical advice.
you could ask if there is a consultant midwife in your area? where I work the consultant midwife supports women to make informed choices that may be out of the usual hospital guidelines. for example on the freestanding midwife led unit she will support women with known risk factors to birth there if that is their personal choice.
you can also speak to a local supervisor of midwives who will support you. (they are they for you)
the choice for a home birth is yours. lots of love and luck.