What chores does your DP do?

You see I wouldn't stand for that at all - there would be one almighty unholy row and he would be frogmarched out to do said bunnies!

Is he ok? Inability to keep on top of chores can be a sign of depression - or maybe he's just a lazy f***er

Like the last comment Ruth.

Lisa my DH was brought up in SA as well but like I said schooled away from home and national service was strict, did your DH do NS????

No he didn't. They grew up on a farm in the middle of nowhere, his dad worked all hours and his mum did everything round the house for him and the 5 kids. Quite possibly why I seem to end up doing everything

Ahh yeah that was and still is the way out there, DH said a lot of men are idle but I am guessing it is just the way of life x

I'm very lucky, my DH is wonderful. He cooks pretty much every night as well as doing the washing up. He takes over looking after Toby when he gets in from work to feed and bath him and put him to bed. He also does the hoovering. I do the washing and obv looking after Toby and the general tidying around the house. I'm also the one who sorts out all our finances etc. I think it's pretty balanced though as I'm not returning to work, I know I have to do more cooking.

Whatever I ask. Dh works loooong hours and at the end of the day I don't really expect him to do more than sort out his stuff for the next day. At the weekend though, he'll do pretty much anything asked of him and quite frequently does all of the vacuuming, cleans the bathroom, etc. Whatever needs doing.

ETA, dh grew up helping around the house (as do our boys), he did National Service in his country and then lived on his own for a few years. He kept his little place tidier than I did mine before I met him

My DH grew up in a house where his Dad went out to work and his Mum did everything around the house and never worked. He didn't enjoy it as an environment and he thinks his mum is neurotic (probably due to the simmering resentment from years of no help round the house!) hence being open to a more "modern" way of doing things. So I don't think they can excuse themselves by saying it's what they were brought up with.

Plus he appreciates the salary that comes with me working, I think I would have a harder sell if I was a permanent SAHM (not that I think that makes a difference, I consider looking after kids a full time job).

Ummmm... not a huge amount really
He takes out the bins every Sunday... but usually expects me to tell him whether it's normal bin or recycling bin week
He mows the lawn and takes care of the fish pond
He does the bath & bed routine with Erin 5 days out of 7 and will do the washing up on the nights I give Erin a bath
The only cooking he really does is the bbq although he does like to have a go at a Sunday roast every now & then. But honestly, the havoc he creates in the kitchen when he does is horrendous, which makes me think it's less hassle just to cook myself.
Everything else, from laundery to hoovering to window cleaning and everything else inbetween is pretty much left to me. I'm a bit OCD with the laundery & how things are washed/pegged out/folded when dry so I don't mind doing that so much. But sometimes I just wish he'd do a bit more, especially when I ask him to do stuff & he just doesn't get round to it, sometimes for weeks

My DH grew up in a house where his Dad went out to work and his Mum did everything around the house and never worked. He didn't enjoy it as an environment and he thinks his mum is neurotic (probably due to the simmering resentment from years of no help round the house!) hence being open to a more "modern" way of doing things. So I don't think they can excuse themselves by saying it's what they were brought up with.

Plus he appreciates the salary that comes with me working, I think I would have a harder sell if I was a permanent SAHM (not that I think that makes a difference, I consider looking after kids a full time job).

My DH grew up in a house where his Mum did everything AND worked (his parents divorced when he was about 2) and his Nan had 11 kids and also worked, so the expectation is definitely that I would do pretty much everything. I went back to work part-time (3 days a week) and he expected me to do it all, it was only when I got promoted and started working full-time again that he started to do a bit more.

My problem was that I would just get on and do it as it would stress me out to leave stuff in a mess, and he then knew he could get away with it. Now that I just don't have the time I can't get so stressed about it, and my significant salary contribution to the household has changed his mind a bit!

Ummm he doesn't do as much as he used to and i have to nag him to do it sometimes too! He cooks on the weekdays, washes up in the evening and empties the bin. Oh and he cleans the kitchen. I do everything else, he just doesn't seem to 'see' it anymore.

You see I would just lose the plot if DH did nothing, whether he expected me to do it or not! We were together 4 years before we got married tho and married 7 years before kids so we had a long time to sort the ground rules out