Using a dummy - help please

[Allie]

Well I used it for the first time during the night as he just wouldn't settle and once he got used to it being in his mouth he settled really well then spat it out once he didn't need it anymore. I've used it again this morning and he settled within a couple of minutes so although I don't like using a dummy it might just be my sanity saver

Why is it you don't like using a dummy - really I don't think there is anything wrong with one. If it makes Dexter settled and happy (and therefore you settled and happy!) that is great

Thats great Allie, I wish Imogen would take one. She is fab at settling for bed but a nightmare in the day. Zach has always had one for sleeping and I love dummies Pop a dummy in Zachs mouth when he is tired and he sleeps with no complaining not like a certain little miss I know

[Allie]

Why is it you don't like using a dummy - really I don't think there is anything wrong with one. If it makes Dexter settled and happy (and therefore you settled and happy!) that is great

I don't think there is anything wrong with using one it just that I feel because Harriet didn't need one then Dexter shouldn't although they are totally different babies. For me personally it almost feels like I don't have as much time for him as I did with Harriet and that's why i've resorted to a dummy . Probably none of this makes sense to anyone else and i'm just rambling now having had just one hours sleep so i'll stop now and go and tidy the kitchen

I'm glad it's helping him settle. Don't feel bad about using them, they are not forever!!!

I think what you are saying makes perfect sense, but I think you are wrong Like you say they are very different babies and Dexter obviously has different needs to Harriet. Don't feel guilty about it.

And I am sure people say this all the time - but it will get easier, I look back to this time last year and I was frazzled. It is so much easier now

Bella's got her dummy in today as I've just found her 4 canines are coming through Poor little soul has only had about a week since the last lot finished.

Ella uses a dummy. I didn't like the idea of using one at first and said I wouldn't before we had Ella, but she was such a suckly baby it was either that or her being attached to my boob permanently. I'd prefer she had a dummy to sucking her digits as we did as kids and I think it's a harder habit to break, plus it affected our teeth. We're thinking about taking it away by the next 6 months so by the time she is 2 anyway. Want to start limiting it to just for going to sleep. Now I don't reall care that she uses a dummy. She obviously gets a lot of comfort from it still.

u needn't feel guilty about using a dummy they are fab if the baby likes them we use dummy clips which are personalised too so they don't get dropped andfor night we use a sleepytot which is far easier to find than a loose dummy in the cot