Ok, our babies both sleep in bed with me, this has been the case since day one as they just did not sleep at all (maybe 4 hrs in 24 for the first 6 weeks) other than that they would only sleep on top of us for little catnaps in the day. This means there is no room for Mr CP He has declined a single bed alongside us to make a huge bed as he does not feel cosleeping is normal. Here's the problem, I am exhausted, a good night it when Imo wakes up a bout 5 times and Nat wakes up twice, he sleeps next to her (only ever on his front, I know its bad and I feel so guilty but he has never in his whole life slept on his back only on his front on top of me or Mr CP and I just caved at about 4 weeks out of desperation.) She sleeps touching me and often wakes up and SCREAMS in the night. I am often awake for two/three hours in the night if they wake up together becuase it take along time to feed Natty and ages to settle them both. While I would love to cosleep on one level, on another its clearly not ok for Mr CP, and also I am loosing the will to live becuase while they improved considerably at 12 weeks, illness has meant they are back to how they were when they were newborn (although now they will tolerate being put down for a few minutes). Bedtime used to work, now they are awake and screaming for hours after their bath, then they are awake and crying all night too becuase they are exhausted. The other night I fed them alternatly between 7pm and 1am and I am loosing it.
Tamba twinline has recommended controlled crying which I am just not willing to do, that does not suit how we want to be parents. Does anyone have any ideas? Given that we are more inclinded to attachment parenting than Ginafording I know we will not have a "solution" but its ridiculous at the moment. I know that three weeks of illness has caused the nightmare that it is at the moment but there must be hope? I have to feed Nat to sleep anyway, Imo just about slept in her basket pre-illness for up to three hours (but waking upabout 10 times in that time). We are happy for them to be in our room and for them to share a cot (probably with a divider) but last night for example they fed seven times between them and that is not including the time Imo spent awake, I just cannot work out how I will get them into another bed without being up all night trying to get them back to sleep. Tamba twinline told me they will just get more used to how things are if we don't asddress things but I just don't see how it can be different while I am breastfeeding them. Any ideas?
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