2.5 year old not listening - discipline question

Losing bedtime stories is one that probably would work well as she loves her stories, toys I don't think would make any difference as she has virtually no attachment to any toys anyway.

Maybe put the book up on a high shelf as a reminder. She may well forget thats she's lost her night time story.

We are having a similar experience. Jen hasnt always done as we've asked, i think she has selective hearing sometimes! but when i use a certain tone of voice, sharp and loud, to tell her not to do something particularly naughty/dangerous etc she always listened, now she is not. She laughs aswell, not good. I think it is age related, probably exacerbated by a sibling on the horizon. I now try and keep 'that' voice for really severe situations, so its a bit more of a shock, and follow it with an expalnation of why ive aksed her to do/not to do something. I think they are understanding a lot, just testing the boundaries and how much control they have. Not sure how long it will last, sorry

My 4.5 will do this lol!
I got some info about speech and language / processing type stuff for work and it was a good eye opener on listening skills. From your example it sounds like she s not ignoring you on purpose to be naughty but that she's busy/ occupied/ distracted. I think at her age, I can t rem what age up to, children aren t able to listen to/ concentrate on more than one thing at a time. If she was engrossed in something they are not always able to think about anything else.
It really helped me to understand why my oldest was doing similar things. I m not sure if sanctions would help in any way but obviously that's your choice etc.
I found trying to get her attention first by asking her by name to look at me and try and ensure that she was able to listen first before telling her the instructions. Also giving her ' we need to stop doing A in a few minutes and then do B. especially if it's an activity or tv programme.
Hope that helps xxx

My 4.5 will do this lol!
I got some info about speech and language / processing type stuff for work and it was a good eye opener on listening skills. From your example it sounds like she s not ignoring you on purpose to be naughty but that she's busy/ occupied/ distracted. I think at her age, I can t rem what age up to, children aren t able to listen to/ concentrate on more than one thing at a time. If she was engrossed in something they are not always able to think about anything else.
It really helped me to understand why my oldest was doing similar things. I m not sure if sanctions would help in any way but obviously that's your choice etc.
I found trying to get her attention first by asking her by name to look at me and try and ensure that she was able to listen first before telling her the instructions. Also giving her ' we need to stop doing A in a few minutes and then do B. especially if it's an activity or tv programme.
Hope that helps xxx

She is deliberately ignoring me and knows full well that she is doing it because she says "no, I'm doing x".

With getting undressed after the first three times of asking her I knelt down next to her, said "Annabel, look at me please, I want you to take off your socks and jeans please so we can get in the bath" and she just stood there looking at me and said "no". I asked twice more then got her undressed anyway, but she cried while I did it. She did say sorry a couple of minutes later.

I hate threads like this as it make my DS sounds even more unruly he never listens. We do naughty step as there has to be a consequence but other than knowing to apologies it doesn't make a great difference. To be fair she does sound advanced though he can't undress himself properly and I don't trust him to wash his hand alone. The majority of our issues have started since DD arrived thou.

2 year olds don't listen. It's completely normal. And 2 year olds say 'no' a LOT. Oh and so do teenagers
Personally I'd pick my battles, not taking off her clothes because you've asked her to wouldn't warrant punishment in my house.

Totally agree with Eleanor.

Doesn't sound like she's being naughty to me at all. The water example to me sounds like she was having fun exploring and didn't want to stop, everything is so fascinating to them at this stage and if anything I would of made sure the hot tap was tightly turned off and then let Evan continue. Getting ready for the bath, I still undress Evan and he wouldn't do it himself, I defiantly wouldn't feel the need to punish him

It's defiantly a case of picking your battles at this age IMHO.

at uni this week we were learning about child development...and how most children don't actually understand the actual meaning of 'sorry' and 'naughty'.....until they are approx 5/6 i have looked after many children who say sorry straight after doing something wrong but you know that they aren't actually sorry - their brain just can't quite work it out... coz they are so egocentric. If she is involved in a task, such as washing her hands, for her this is extremely important, and she prob can't understand that it isn't extremely important for you..... (i know - mega fraustrating...)
but she is only little.... i would focus on lots of praise when she does as you ask, but also maybe giving her time and warning when you want her to do something... so she has time to finish her 'important' thing that she is doing.

And like Eleanor and Kim said - i would def pick my battles!!! I'm learning to do this with H and she is only 17months...!!!!!

Tbh, it's not that I think she needs punishing for not getting undressed, it's just the principle of not listening. For example, what happens if she doesn't listen when I ask her not to touch the cooker when it's hot, or not to try and pick up the baby when I'm in the shower etc.
It is interesting to know that most children her age don't really listen, I only have her levels to guage what's normal iyswim. Thanks for the input, it's helpful.