Sleep

This belongs in both the babies bit and here too really...

Just thought what a lovely article this was - most of it common sense to be honest but it's good to be reminded of things occasionally as we regularly get tantrums at bedtime and I don't want her to go to bed cross or lonely! (I tend to be quite strict on delaying tactics...)
http://www.juniormagazine.co.uk/news/article.asp?UAN=1

Good article. Am just trying to convince Dave we need a much bigger bed.

Really nice. I do often think that we leave them to sleep on there own at such a young age (we were never co sleepers but had her in with us till 8 months). I don't like sleeping on my own now at 42!

Love that Dr Ferber has reviewed his stance on controlled crying.........

So much of this apply s to us particularly to Anna
She has to have a soft light on
She gets very lonely (actually Kieran does) and we do sometime let them go to sleep in our bed, I lie with them and then carry them to their own rooms
We often get delaying tactics from both of them, hunger being the main one
I never let them go to sleep on an argument, I make point of kissing and making up with lots of re-assurance and love
Kieran loves to sleep with a blanket or something to smell
We have set bed time routine for all kiddies
I always ask how their days have been, what they did, what they did at play time etc
Good night kisses are a must, and always before DH and I go to bed I go in and kiss each of them and whisper " Mummy loves you", I do them in order as well, Kieran, Anna and Gracie

Steph this is fab. I'm going to email the link to DH. It actually reafirms alot of what we believe to be the case.
And I'm another one who at almost 33 doesn't like going to sleep alone. I read and have a light timed to go off usually after I'm asleep. I still have terrible memories of being left crying 'i'm lonely' repeatedly for long periods of time My problem was I would be put to bed while all the 'grown ups', my sisters are 17 and 13 years older than me, were laughing and joking downstairs. It really made me feel excluded thus probably increasing the feelings of seperation. Fortunately my parents eventually realised I fell asleep in there company sooner rather than later and I was no bother once I'd been put in my own bed. My dad only stopped carrying me upstairs asleep when he was diagnosied with a hernia when I was about 10
DH and I have discussed it loads and have absolutely no problem with staying with Kacie until she's asleep for as long as she needs it and that's one of the reasons I don't want to put her in her own room. We'd quite happilly co-sleep fully too if we had a bigger bed, though my biggest problem with this at the mo is that Kacie has a liking for trying to sleep on my head

Excellent article, the lonliness bit really struck me, Jak has slept sooo much better since Summer has been in with him, wonder if thats why

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Thanks for posting that hun...Megan has never gone to sleep on her own since she was about a year old...before that I would lay her in the cot, turn off the light and close the door but since she turned one she has cried if we leave her awake and so one of us would stay with her, rub her back etc till she fell asleep...now that she is in a big bed one of us gets into bed with her, reads her a story and stays with her untill she is asleep...

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That's a great read!

It does make so much sense too as the days when I seem to feel really down with PND are the days when the boys are more clingy and tend to not want to go to sleep or wake up loads in the night.

I still find it upsetting that after all the new research the HVs are still only handing out leaflets involving leaving your baby to cry as the only way to encourage sleep.