Question for those with secondary age girls

DD2 (11yrs) came home from school this week really upset as some of the boys in her class have told her she has got a moustache She has really fair body hair but i have to admit that she does have quite alot of fluff on her lip near the corners of her mouth. Just not really sure what to do with it

Never had this problem with dd1 as even though she has dark hair she never had any on her top lip until she was about 13, and then she just shaved it off but as dd2 is only 11 and it is fair hair? - any advice?

I would advice avoiding shaving as it makes the hair grow back thicker!
Waving is an option but this will require upkeep and re-waving every few weeks when the hair returns, gradually over time the hair will grow back sparser and finer.
The other options are epilation but this only really works on thick dark hairs.
Or laser hair removal , this can be every expensive but its permanent and they have developed a system that works on fine fair hairs!
All the treatments I have listed aren't without some discomfort but its worth the results.
Feel free to pm me more any more info!
There is also bleaching but as you have said the hair is fair its not really relevant.

I don't have any children that old but honestly o think you'd be best to take her to wax it as I think if you don't she may shave it and that would make it so much worse

I am not a mummy to a teenage girl but I am a secondary school teacher. I wouldn't suggest she shaves or removes the hair. Personally I would encourage her to try to ignore the boys as much as possible. They are cruel creatures who will pick on anybody who lets them. Its very hard to do but if she can try not to let them see her get upset they will get bored and leave her alone. Also she must try to talk to one of her teachers, form tutor or head of year. They will probably say the same as me but at least they can support her if she wants them to.
I understand its hard as a mother to see you child upset and I hope I am not appearing harsh but I believe in strengthening character rather than appeasing the mindless taunts of bullies. The hair will probably thin out as she gets older and become less obvious.
I deal with issues like this all the time in school and although it seems like a tough approach I find it works but it does take time.

I hope you don't think I am being mean

Mrs Flossyfly

I am not a mummy to a teenage girl but I am a secondary school teacher. I wouldn't suggest she shaves or removes the hair. Personally I would encourage her to try to ignore the boys as much as possible. They are cruel creatures who will pick on anybody who lets them. Its very hard to do but if she can try not to let them see her get upset they will get bored and leave her alone. Also she must try to talk to one of her teachers, form tutor or head of year. They will probably say the same as me but at least they can support her if she wants them to.
I understand its hard as a mother to see you child upset and I hope I am not appearing harsh but I believe in strengthening character rather than appeasing the mindless taunts of bullies. The hair will probably thin out as she gets older and become less obvious.
I deal with issues like this all the time in school and although it seems like a tough approach I find it works but it does take time.

I hope you don't think I am being mean

Mrs Flossyfly

I do agree with this, my reply probably came across very blunt, and if she can overcome it that would be brilliant, but if not then I do think it is very likely she would shave it, which would really not help the situation at all, trust me, I've done it

I would agree that she should try to ignore it & I know we should speak to teachers etc if it is really bad but in my experience if it is only a bit of name calling it could make it worse, my DS1 has this a lot at school due to his ginger hair, it's not just boys that can be cruel, the girls are as bad with it too, I think it's an age thing, and combined with them beginning to be very concious of their appearance at that age it's 100% worst

My best friend's DD is in Yr 9 and the previous year started to have her legs waxed with her Mum as she has lots of very dark hair & was being made fun of - she'd told her to ignore it & spoken to tutor but it carried on, in the end her DD tried to shave them & cut herself very very badly (on the verge of needing stitches), I know it's young to start having things like this done & as others have said it's better than them trying to do something themselves & it going wrong. They will want to do it at somepoint anyway so better they do it with the proper guidance.

Lazer or similar treatments are excellent especially for small areas like that & although expensive will be cheaper in the long run.

i was and am still very hairy and i was picked on for this i started to ignore it to start with as it was what my mum said but when i got in to year 11 i started to wax my lip chin and legs as i was shaving my legs everyday. so i asked my mum if i could get sugared as thats what she did and i now don't need to wax my lip or chin now which is great but i wouldn't do it just yet for your DD but if it still aproblem later then give her the opition to wax or sugar it off

but for her as boys can be so cruel

My best friend's DD is in Yr 9 and the previous year started to have her legs waxed with her Mum as she has lots of very dark hair & was being made fun of - she'd told her to ignore it & spoken to tutor but it carried on, in the end her DD tried to shave them & cut herself very very badly (on the verge of needing stitches), I know it's young to start having things like this done & as others have said it's better than them trying to do something themselves & it going wrong. They will want to do it at somepoint anyway so better they do it with the proper guidance.

Lazer or similar treatments are excellent especially for small areas like that & although expensive will be cheaper in the long run.

I completely agree with this! In an ideal world it would just stop if she ignored it but from my personal experience it didn't!
Mrs flossy you sound like such a lovely caring teaching and I wish there was more like you.
I know I would have felt to uncomfortable to speak to a teacher!

I got underarm hair be4 a lot of my peers and on a school holiday started to notice people whisper and making comments. I can still remember feeling so so so upset about it and these things are so hard to ignore. At that age school is your whole life, where as we have the luxury of being able to look back and realise hoe trivial it is.

When dd starts to get hair I do plan on taking her for waxing, most women will eventually start doing some form of hair removal and I wish so much my mother had guided me more when I was young!

11 is very young to start hair removal , so I think trying to ignore the comments would be best way to start dealing with it. I think just chatting with her and forming an action plan , so like Zoey says she doesn't do anything silly!

Hey hun. My DD is 13. So I do have an older girl (just slightly.) If its upsetting her so much and she's realy upset and can't just ignore it how about just creaming it off? I am pretty fairhaired but every now and again I notice more above my top lip so I buy a sensitive cream hair remover and do it that way. Its not ideal but its cheaper than a lot of other methods and she won't be tempted to shave it! Not saying I think she should have to.....(Other kids can be so cruel) am just saying it incase she realy does want to get rid of it of its upsetting her too much. Good luck hun. Xx