Help with sleep problem

My Ds2 is now 2 1/4 and still not sleeping through. I know some children don't learn to self settle until 2 1/2 but it is getting ridiculous. He wakes up about 3 times a night (between 12pm and 5.30am) not upset or crying, he just shouts for me very very loudly and he won't stop until I go into his room. Once I go into him he settles fairly quickly (within 20 mins) and doesn't want anything apart from to see me. We have a good sleep routine and he is in bed asleep on a week night by 7 and 7.45 on a friday and Saturday. He has been waking up early recently which I could cope with if I was getting a decent unbroken sleep. His shouting has now started to affect my DS1 who he is waking up now as well . I have tried to explain to him that he is not to shout when he wakes up but he won't get out of bed by himself even though he has been in a big bed since he was 17 months so I really don't know where to go from here.
I have tried ignoring him, I have tried going in quickly to reassure him and then leaving straight away, I have tried staying and cuddling him until he goes back to sleep, I have tried going into his bedroom regularly to check he is warm/cool enough etc etc. The only thing I haven't tried is letting him sleep in my bed (although I have a feeling when he went back to his bed eventually I would get into different problems). I think it has just become a habit and I'm not sure how to break it?
Sorry about the long ramble
I am now out of ideas and really need a decent sleep
Any Ideas ladies?

Sorry, no help, but I'll be interested in replies. My (almost) 6yr old still doesn't sleep through on a regular basis and it's driving me insane.

Does he self settle or do you stay with him until he goes to sleep. We made the error of staying with K until he went to sleep and found he would waken and find us not there when we had been when he had gone to sleep.
It is probably just for reassurance that you are there x

Does he self settle or do you stay with him until he goes to sleep. We made the error of staying with K until he went to sleep and found he would waken and find us not there when we had been when he had gone to sleep.
It is probably just for reassurance that you are there x

Sometimes he will self settle but if doesn't and he starts to cry I have to sit on the end of the bed (which is a vast improvement on a few weeks ago) I am slowly edging myself out of the room.

Infants are not neurologically or developmentally capable of soothing themselves to sleep in a healthy way until they are around two and a half or three. Until then they need help calming down and regulating their feelings if/when they wake at night. He will sleep longer and be able to settle himself when he is emotionally ready. In the meantime, lots of reassuring cuddles, lying with him until he goes to sleep and co-sleeping will help by reassuring him that you are there for him and allowing you some extra sleep at the same time.

Hiya lots of empathy with you. Mine dd1 started doing the same at a similar age. Sorry to say she still does it now but not every night and not always lots of times maybe only once. We started settling her at bedtime with audio books like Julia donaldson ones and if she wakes up now she has a cuddle and kiss and wants the music on. It means I only half wake up, stumble down landing and then straight back to bed and zzzzz lol!
Good luck xxx